Seven Quick Takes

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1. Today was a long day. It's technically 12:30 A.M. and I haven't been to bed yet. It started with getting up at 7 in order to get everyone dressed, fed and out of the house by 8:10 to take Superman to physical therapy for a 4 hour session today. After that was the last of the Christmas shopping (Big Kid shopping for Little Bit and Daddy), gas for the car, a trip to the library and a trip to the thrift store in hunt of a better sized pitcher for Big Kid to work on pouring. Home for a bit of play and some lunch, then back to pick up Superman, naptime/rest time for the boys while I caught up on laundry and Superman rested, then to my parents house to see family in from out of town. Home in time to bathe the boys and put them to bed then try to finish up chores, make brownies for tomorrow's very big family Christmas, and collapse. But now my mind won't shut off with the amount of stuff going through it. Hence the post. :)

 

2. I've been working in little pieces on a general plan for Big Kid for the next year. It's mostly notes to myself- We want to plant flowers out front for him to help water and care for, and we're going to try to grow just a few edible things on the back porch in pots. We have no space for a real garden, so that will have to do. I made a list of a few presentations I want to do in the next few months as he shows interest.

 

3. Big Kid announced to me today that he doesn't want to drink soy milk any more (he's intolerant of cow's milk, so he drinks mostly soy milk), only water and orange juice. I told him he should still drink soy milk to stay healthy and keep his bones strong. Then he looked really confused and asked me what a bone was. I realized we'd never really talked about that! So I held out my hand and told him to feel my fingers and wrist and arm for the hard parts.

"Those are the bones." I said.

"Can I see them?"

"You can't take bones out of your body." I said. "You would have to cut your skin open to see them and that would hurt."

"But we could just cut yours and I could look just real quick."

He's so quick to give me up in the name of science! I finally convinced him that his grandmother had several x-rays he could look at, and that made him happy. My mom has x-rays of my hands, my knee, the knees of 3 of my siblings (bad knees are a family trait apparently) and my pelvis (complete with a zipper down the middle because they said that thing they were looking for didn't matter if I kept my jeans on... weird, I know, but they figured out the problem, so I suppose it worked out okay!)

 

4. Little Bit is hard core teething again. Hopefully these last four teeth will come in all together and we can be through with the madness! Last night was fever, drool, diahrea, the whole nine yards. The only thing that seemed to help was chewing on an icy cold wet washcloth. He cried and cried all night and he was miserable all day too.

 

5. I'm only teaching in the studio 1 day a week for the next two weeks. Hooray for a break!  We've had some bad weather here that led to lessons needing to be rescheduled, so I have 2 short work days over break and the rest of the time to hang out with my boys.

 

6. I still have to wrap presents. STILL. Like as in they must be wrapped before we leave for the big gathering tomorrow morning. And there's laundry still in the dryer...

 

7. I need Superman back. We all do! This back problem of his has been terrible. He's home all the time but he can't really spend a lot of time with the boys- they basically think of their daddy as a giant climbing toy full of great sound effects and lots of hugs and tickles. Of course, Superman can't be climbed on at all right now and all the great chasing and hiding games they usually play are on the back burner. Big Kid understands that Daddy's back is hurt, but he doesn't understand why it isn't better yet. Little Bit has not a clue!

Superman isn't a sit around kind of guy, so all this laying down is really getting to him. He's read a lot, watched a lot of movies, and generally just been bored. He had a lot of time to study for his finals this term, so that was good! He started a different kind of therapy this past Wednesday. It concludes on Tuesday, and as long as he's met his goals he can return to work on Wednesday. We're hoping that his back continues to heal so he can get back on his feet.

Montessori in our Home (Part One)

I had a question asked of me the other day: "Why Montessori?" There are many many methods of education out there, but we landed on Montessori. I thought I'd write today about the why behind our choice.

 

I've been a music teacher for a long time now, and one of the things I learned early on was that there is no one method that works for everyone. I maintain a full studio of 40 students ranging in ages from 3-adult and there is no possible way for one method to meet the very unique needs of a preschooler as well as the needs of a middle school student or adult. For my music students I know exactly what needs to be taught and the methods I choose from stick with my criteria, but within that range I can account for different kinds of learners. It is more complex than aural, kinesthetic, or visual so once I've chosen a method that fits I still need to tailor the method to the individual. Montessori is our base; it is the very closest thing to our educational goals for our children, but as in the music methods I described above, not a perfect fit. I'm trying to tailor to the boys needs, adopt a bit of other methods that we think are just as important, and to follow to a certain extent where the boys might take us in their educational desires.

 

There is no one way for everyone, but I do believe that there are certain paths that suit each of us better. Big Kid is a pretty quiet boy. He would sit still to read with us at 15 months old and that is still his favorite part of our day. He was very verbal early on and is constantly trying out bigger and better words in his vocabulary. He wants to read very badly on his own- I think he believes that it's one of the most important and exciting things to do with your day. We sit and read many separate times a day, I read or study material while the boys play, Superman is in college again so we rarely see him without a text book open these days. Little Bit, on the other hand, is quite a handful at 17 months. He is constantly moving, climbing, exploring, opening, closing... you name it, he's into it! I've started really trying to teach him to sit  for a short board book- the kind that has one word per page for maybe 6 or 8 pages. I've been holding him on my lap for the length of one short book so that we can start to increase his attention span second by second. He has no verbal vocabulary yet, but he is very good at getting his point across by pointing and signing. These boys are very different already, and I knew that when I started looking into different options for their education. It is important to me to provide a structure in our home that works for all of our children without forcing anyone to conform to a lifestyle that isn't really in their personality and I feel that Montessori provides that for us.

 

There are a few things about Montessori that called out to me above other things. I also find great appeal in Charlotte Mason and Waldorf, and we will probably include elements of those methods along our journey, but Montessori really fits with me and the things I was already doing with my boys (specifically Big Kid at that point, but as Little Bit is getting to be 18 months he will really join us as well!). As I've been reading more and more about the method I find myself saying, "we already do this, this and that, Big Kid knows all of these..." and feeling like it was a natural fit with what was already working really made me feel comfortable with calling Montessori home. The more I read the more I find that this fits our whole family and that is just as important. I as the director of their education have to be able to actually follow and complete my part of the bargain- if I found something that was perfect for my children but completely clashed with my own personality that would not work for the boys either!

 

I love that work time is a structured thing; when it is time to work you must choose work to do and it is as simple as that! But also there is great flexibility- if Big Kid wants to choose the binomial cube over and over each day he can do that, or he can switch to whatever is most attractive to him that day. I personally like to know what I have to accomplish in a day but then have the flexibility to arrange those tasks however I'd like. Big Kid would like every single day to be the same as the day that came before it, so having to choose his work has been a really good skill for him to build on. For Little Bit I can already see that learning to stay with his work through completion will be a good step for him when he is able to get to that point.

 

We have a certain rhythm to our day now that we did not have before, and I dare say a bit more peace as well. The boys know what to expect next each day and in turn it has given me a better schedule and routine as well.

Beyond Homemaking Daybook 4

Weather: Let's just say I can't wait for spring.

 

This Week: This is my last work week before a nice 2 week vacation for the holidays! We'll find out later this morning from the doctor whether or not Superman can get back to work and we have piano lessons this morning too. I need to finish up Christmas gifts and of course try to get everything wrapped. I also have baking and some extra house things to do before my family's big get together on Saturday.

 

Current Fiction Read: Still on Kushiel’s Chosen by Jacqueline Carey. It's a gigantic book.  

 

Current Non-Fiction Read: Don't laugh but I'm reading Catholicism for Dummies. Just trying to answer some of my questions and thoughts.

 



Craftiness: I finished up Little Bit's mittens last week, and I'm racing like crazy to try to get his kangaroo done in time for Christmas morning! I was also gifted some fabric from my mom the quilter so I'm thinking about what I can do with that over my holiday break. I've been thinking about these pencil/crayon pouches, and maybe something in the same vein to better organize my knitting needles.

 

Learning at home: Big Kid has narrowed his work day down to three activities. First, he dictates a list of words to me (usually about 5) and then he copies them on the white board to his little heart's content. Second, he is really mastering the pink cards. When he gets his moveable alphabet set for Christmas we'll need to move on to putting the picture in front of him and having him spell out the word. That's the part he's more interested in anyway, rather than the reading. Third, he is really enjoying painting for the first time ever.

I've been trying to entice this child to paint since he was probably 16 months old. He just hates a mess and that has kept him from being interested. He's attempted a few times, but it has always been j ust a few brush strokes and he's done. FORGET finger painting! He produced 5 papers in one sitting last week and at least 2 in all the others. I think now that he has better fine motor skills and can control the "mess" it's easier for him mentally to think about painting.

Little Bit has been plain old mischevious so some of his items have been put away for now. He wants to dump 5 different things out all over the floor 50 times a day and then ignore them. For certain items that's okay, but not for the binomial cube. We've only had the poor thing for 2 months but it has taken such a beating! He's been really busy with a sponge and spray bottle wiping the tables, and he's enjoying the place setting work I set up for him a few weeks ago.

 

New work: Nothing until after the holidays. I have a few new things I'll be getting ready for both of them- different types of pouring activities for both and some spoon and tong work for Little Bit.